Not everyone is a Narcissist: Rethinking Psychological Labels in Everyday Life

 

Not everything requires a psychological diagnosis or label. Increasingly, common phrases like “My ex is a narcissist,” “My friend gaslights me,” “He has ADHD,” “He has autism,” or “She is borderline” are used in everyday conversation. As a psychologist familiar with the DSM, I caution against the casual use of these terms. They have become a substitute for healthy communication and an excuse for dismissing those who disagree with us or behave differently than we expect.

The widespread misuse of psychological terms can lead to misinformation and foster arrogance about the struggles people face. Many who discuss these labels on social media or with tools like ChatGPT lack the expertise needed to use them accurately. Applying such labels is often unnecessary and can be harmful. If you are dissatisfied with a relationship, it is better to leave rather than assign a diagnosis or negative label to another person.

Labeling others does not solve personal issues; it merely excuses one’s own behavior and perpetuates harmful patterns. Instead, it is important to learn to communicate your needs clearly. If someone does not understand, refuses to communicate, or ignores you, simply recognize that they are not interested and move on without labeling them. While rejection hurts, it is better to face reality than to deceive yourself.

Let us stop labeling others and start loving ourselves enough to walk away when necessary. Allow yourself to let go and move forward. If you need assistance, seek help from a professional—not from social media or AI tools like ChatGPT.

Hila Naftali - Psychologist