Why pointing fingers will get you nowhere?
- Hila Naftali
- Jul 29
- 1 min read
I have been working as a psychologist for almost twenty years now, and I am still astonished by the amount of people that point fingers and say: “because of him\them\her, my life is ruined”. Our society has created finger pointers instead of human beings that take responsibility for their own lives and start making themselves accountable for it.
The truth is:
You are stuck, because you resist moving forward.
You are in an abusive relationship, because you stay in one.
You are mistreated, because you allow it.
You allow abuse, because you are scared of being alone.
Never in my life have I ever met a person that moved forward in life, changed their lives, without understanding their own responsibility. That is what maturity is all about.
The only people that create change for the better are those that walk through my doors and say: “Hila, tell me what I am doing wrong that my life looks like this?”” How do I manage to get myself out of it?”
This is how therapy works, by taking responsibility.
We will never change someone else, ever. We can change ourselves.
If we want a healthier, more vibrant life, we must change.
My recommendations are:
1. Take responsibility for the mess you made in your life, or that you allowed others to make.
2. Find some courage.
3. Contact me for support\ or someone like me.
4. Start making consistent changes actively.
5. ACT! Only talking will get you nowhere.
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